Exercise Reengineered

When you hear the word, “exercise,” what comes up for you? This is what used to come up for me: It’s a hassle. It’s too time-consuming. It will hurt. I won’t be good at it. 
It’ll just remind me that I’m not an athlete. I have to do it to make up for all the junk I just ate. It has to be intense or it won’t count. I can’t enjoy it or I won’t get results. People will look at my fat. I...
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Before and After

I just came back from a terrific bariatric support group meeting. A participant mentioned that a friend of hers posted a photo of herself, 100 lbs. heavier, on her fridge. She was curious about what we thought. Here’s what I thought. It all depends on why you’re posting the photo and what feelings that photo creates for you. If you’re posting it to scare yourself into discipline, to threaten...
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Lessons From My One-Year Old Niece

There we were, family gathered to celebrate the first birthday of my beloved niece, Tatum. I’m fascinated with this gorgeous little girl and can’t help but wonder what’s going on in that beautiful little head of hers. With that same sense of wonderment, I noticed everything about her. What she looked at, the noises she made, how she behaved, how she reacted. And as I studied...
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